Humans are complex beings, and, in my opinion, women are even more complex. More specifically, in the Black community, we have a history of jealousy, discord, competition (normally centered around gaining attention from men) and pain within female-to-female relationships. We see this in those popular reality shows such as “The Housewives” series. Yes, maybe TV amplifies issues for ratings sake, but, if we were really on the up and up in these relationships, producers would have nothing to work with to portray our interactions in such a negative light.
I have been blessed to have found an outlet for the current of life, in my friendships. These women have adopted me into their hearts and named me their sister. They say the word so effortlessly and fill it with a grace that smooths out my broken edges and difficult ways. They have been the very sponges to polish my jarring weaknesses. They have been God’s hands to uphold me in the midst of trauma, loss, heartbreak, and pain.
It’s the New Year. And normally I would do a summary of the old year. I would reflect on all He had done and how He had moved and how far I had come. But I won’t do that this year. Not because He hadn’t moved and He hadn’t done and I hadn’t come. But… Continue reading High-Highs, Low-Lows
My best friend got engaged. We knew it was coming but then again we didn’t. We talked about the possibilities and played out the scenarios but nothing makes it real until it really happens. Well it really happened. And all of a sudden, memories of our shared singlehood flash across my minds’ eye. Like that… Continue reading When Your Best Friend Gets Married
I’m in the midst of visiting longtime friends in a city I’ve been to so many times over the years, but it’s never really stood out to me in and of itself. Instead it’s been the people here–the women here– who have touched my soul in such a way that when I visit, they are… Continue reading Adjusting Expectations
This season has been full of high highs and low lows. Similar to Dicken’s “A Tale of Two Cities” I can see the best and worst. I can see both the light and the dark. They somehow coexist. The beauty is that Christ is the same, no matter how tumultuous life gets. He peaks at me… Continue reading The Light & Darkness
Have you ever interacted with someone who just doesn’t see you? Your gifts, your talents, your beauty? No matter how hard you try they are blind to the greatness that is “you”. I found myself in that position recently. And what made it worse (actually there were a lot of things that made it worse… Continue reading My People
Have you ever done something you regret? Like really regret? But even though you regret it in time you do it again. And again. And again… Romans 7:15, 19 “For what I am doing, I do not understand. For what I will to do, that I do not practice; but what I hate, that I… Continue reading The Webs We Weave
This weekend one of my besties asked me along for a road trip. I of course said, “yes!” And off we went to Indiana to visit her fam. It has been go go go non stop full of extroverts and activities. Definitely an energy remover for this introvert but still enjoyable 😉. Seeing her with… Continue reading Honoring Those Who Have Gone Before
Several years ago, I was spiritually released from my previous employer. I had been through the “woo” at that company and my mom often joked about the possibility of them being exposed on the news due to their corruption (she even threatened to call the news a few times). But it was God’s will that… Continue reading Ending Well & Using Words