Humans are complex beings, and, in my opinion, women are even more complex. More specifically, in the Black community, we have a history of jealousy, discord, competition (normally centered around gaining attention from men) and pain within female-to-female relationships. We see this in those popular reality shows such as “The Housewives” series. Yes, maybe TV amplifies issues for ratings sake, but, if we were really on the up and up in these relationships, producers would have nothing to work with to portray our interactions in such a negative light.
Tag: healthy relationships
Eyes To See
As I mentioned previously on this little blog things are moving quickly. Yesterday we did the inspection on the house and while there were several things brought to my attention I was assured by the professional (the inspector) that these items were a given for a house of this age. In fact, it was in… Continue reading Eyes To See
Right in Front of You
Sometimes I tend to make things, I mean life, more difficult than it needs to be. Like the time I was unemployed for 4 months and I spinned my wheels looking for a job. I attended workshops, used a resume coach, updated all social media platforms and even made business cards! I was determined to… Continue reading Right in Front of You
The Choices We Make
Last night I had the opportunity to have dinner with an old friend. It had been nearly ten years since our last dinner but our connection had not changed. We updated each other on career, relationships and faith. We talked about how weird it was that not too long ago we were in our early… Continue reading The Choices We Make
The Last Few Days
These last few days I have been OVERWHELMED with people and their love. I know Christ is the One who gives good gifts and these people in my life are that good gift. In spite of my history of unhealthy relationships, drama and brokeness He flooded my life with love. My experience on this journey… Continue reading The Last Few Days
The 50-Year-Old Whole Single
She walked down the aisle with tears glistening and made eye contact with so many of her guests, mouthing the words “thank you”. It was the first wedding I had been to where the bride did such a thing. Demonstrating so much humility and gratefulness with each step forward for the people standing in the… Continue reading The 50-Year-Old Whole Single
2 Versions of Every Story
So I’m on Day 8 of the True Love Dates Challenge and I really appreciated today’s lesson. Debra Fileta recommended writing out the 2 versions of our story in this stage of life. She encourages this b/c she wants you to see that there are always 2 perceptions we can have in life. The key… Continue reading 2 Versions of Every Story
A Fight For Wholeness
Yesterday I had a convo with a good friend about her upcoming b day. She turns 32. I was so touched that she opened up about her own struggles with getting older and her life not looking the way she thought it would look. She shared about the pressure she receives from her church community to get… Continue reading A Fight For Wholeness
When Trust is Broken
No matter what your personality type, your skin color, your religious beliefs, if you have been hurt/wounded/betrayed by someone you love, you will find it hard to trust that person again. At some point, they made it into your inner being. At some point you stopped being passerby, acquaintances, and mere friends. You became family.… Continue reading When Trust is Broken