Navigating Grief During the Holidays

I have other friends who do not have close families, and so we have been intentional to connect during these times, so that we have someone. For the last three Christmases, one of my besties and I have taken trips that have been phenomenal. There have been some sad moments of course, but the comfort of sharing these moments with someone who gets it, is invaluable. I understand that the road I am called to walk is definitely rocky, but there are several around me who are walking it with me, and that brings its own joy.

Adjusting Expectations 

Women laughing together on urban rooftop

I’m in the midst of visiting longtime friends in a city I’ve been to so many times over the years, but it’s never really stood out to me in and of itself. Instead it’s been the people here–the women here– who have touched my soul in such a way that when I visit, they are… Continue reading Adjusting Expectations 

My People

Have you ever interacted with someone who just doesn’t see you? Your gifts, your talents, your beauty? No matter how hard you try they are blind to the greatness that is “you”.  I found myself in that position recently. And what made it worse (actually there were a lot of things that made it worse… Continue reading My People

Celibacy: The New Sexy

If you’re even just a little bit privy to celebs and entertainment gossip you have probably heard of some well known couples whipping out the celibacy card. Some very good looking couples I might add! These good looking couples have shared that their purposes for being celibate have more to do with their faith then… Continue reading Celibacy: The New Sexy

The Gift of Community

If one can put 1,000 to flight, then 2 can put 10,000 (Deut. 32:30)… New Years found me surrounded by love and friendship which really is the best way to be found.  The evening before I stayed up ’til the wee hours of the morning talking to one of my closest friends.  I have known… Continue reading The Gift of Community

The Purpose Driven Life

I made a confession to someone other than myself yesterday about some things that were heavy on my heart.  I confessed that I was struggling with my purpose.  I know enough to know that one’s sense of purpose is related to one’s sense of value.  And one’s sense of value is usually defined by those… Continue reading The Purpose Driven Life

The Unlikely Guest

I walk into my kitchen with the intent of heating up some water and mixing it with a package of chocolate powder to get warm and satisfy my sweet craving.  But I stop short quickly when I see that he is there.  He is there and she is there, but it is him that surprises me because he… Continue reading The Unlikely Guest

Just Roommates

I’ve heard it said that married couples can fall into a “lull”.  Sometimes the lull lasts for months… sometimes years.  Subtly the couple’s relationship becomes based more on the kids and the house and their jobs than on each other.  Their love for each other turns cold and they find themselves sitting across the table at dinner with only… Continue reading Just Roommates

The Changing of the Tide

Last night I watched as my friend separated her “keeps” from her “give-aways”.  Everything from jewelry to clothes was being placed into one of those piles because in just a few weeks she will be leaving the city for a year…maybe forever.  She’s been waiting for this moment.  To finally be released into international territory… Continue reading The Changing of the Tide