I have other friends who do not have close families, and so we have been intentional to connect during these times, so that we have someone. For the last three Christmases, one of my besties and I have taken trips that have been phenomenal. There have been some sad moments of course, but the comfort of sharing these moments with someone who gets it, is invaluable. I understand that the road I am called to walk is definitely rocky, but there are several around me who are walking it with me, and that brings its own joy.
I reflected back on the last 20 years, which were far from horrible. I felt that most of my greatest experiences were actually happening now, in my 30s. I realized that, though life has been far from easy, the experiences and opportunities I’ve had are probably very unique from many outside of my community, and academic acquaintances.
Years ago, I did what fools do. I planned out my life. Ever heard that joke that says, “Want to make God laugh? Then tell Him your plans for the future!” Well, I did. But I still didn’t think the saying was applicable to me. In my delusion, or umm, pride…or maybe, naivete, I thought… Continue reading My Thoughts on (Extended) Singleness
It is Christmas morning. I’m sitting on a comfy couch near a cozy fire drinking a cup of coffee. The tree is small but welcoming and although there are only two presents under it they are wrapped in love. I’m visiting with a woman who goes back to my childhood. She’s the only one I… Continue reading A Rocky Christmas
Yesterday I made the move. And it was right after I spent the holiday out of town with dear friends. I had packed everything ahead of time because I didn’t want to be stressed the night before trying to get things together (after my flight got in). I am a great planner and I knew… Continue reading Moving By Faith
This week was full of both rest and fun. Rest because I had 5 days off work (3 of those PTO) and fun because many days were spent with really good people. For Thanksgiving my mom and I went out to eat. Normally one of us cooks (usually her) but this time she wanted something… Continue reading Keep Living
This New Year’s my friend from Haiti flew all the way to the States just for me. Okay, okay, she saw her family first. And of course visited with other friends. But that was just to cover up the fact that I was her real reason for visiting 😉. I usually bring in the New… Continue reading Singles Need to Prepare for the Holidays
I’ve been dreading the holidays for the last 7 years. Ever since my grandmother passed and took her home cooking along with her to heaven. It wasn’t the home cooking that I missed so much though, but the warm friendship we had shared since I was born. We were 2 peas in a pod, and… Continue reading This Thanksgiving