These are just a few instances that have occurred over the years in regards to my complexion. When I shared them with a guy I had dated more recently in my adulthood, (before making him sit through the hour-long documentary “Dark Girls”), his response was to brush off my concerns as being immature nonsense that happens while growing up. “Then why are there rarely strong, beautiful, darker skin women portrayed in our media? Why is the typical light skin woman the one on the videos or in the BET (Black Entertainment Television) rom com?” To that, he had no response. Because he knew. Our people are still ashamed.
Category: Spiritual Nuggets & More
Take Up Your Bed and Walk!
What? I’m able to walk? I should be walking? This was news to me! I had been hobbling, rolling, crawling and hopping around for the last 6 weeks, but no walking. I had been doing everything BUT walking! Now, I can just walk?!
Trusting God in the Process
I could hear the sadness in her silence on the other end of the phone. I gripped it nearer to my ear, thinking that the Uber driver could probably hear my end of the conversation, but feeling too distraught to really care. “I’m sorry to hear that,” she finally answered, and I felt the tears… Continue reading Trusting God in the Process
Every Need Supplied
I remember when I was younger in my faith, and I would attend my spiritual group. We would sing a song that talked about how every need was supplied. How many of us have sang those worship songs and hardly placed too much thought about what exactly we were singing?🙋🏾♀️🙄 Well, that was probably one… Continue reading Every Need Supplied
Unlearning How to “Push Through”
At that time, I was also still doing a lot of my workouts, thinking that I was doing less than my normal, so I was good right? Wrong. If anything I was making matters worse by slapping on my ace bandage before lifting my weights. In hindsight, I can see that my “just push through” mentality was surfacing, and so I did what came natural. But what comes “natural: isn’t always the healthiest decision. I’m learning..
Filling The Gap
This weekend I had a a few events booked for my book-selling engagements. Only problem was I hadn’t anticipated that I would have fractured my ankle when I paid for the tables for said events🙄. When I told my friend my dilemma, she suggested I reach out to my community and see if folks could… Continue reading Filling The Gap
We Are Not Grasshoppers
Have you ever felt like a grasshopper? Your circumstances, your calling, your unction in your gut, feels much bigger than anything you can possibly fathom? I know I have. And over and over I keep feeling the Holy Spirit show me that these people I esteem and am often intimidated by, are just “people with platforms”.
Urban Stories Book Launch!
A very long time ago I envisioned what my life would be like. But then I grew up and learned that I was completely wrong. Anyone else been there?🙋🏾♀️🙋🏾♀️🙋🏾♀️ Still, somewhere deep in the crevices of my heart there were some things there that were hidden, even from me, and God made sure to bring them to pass. Being a writer is one of those things.
Mental Health: Let’s Talk About It (Series, Part 4)
How many Christians and church people are conducting their faith out of fear? I’m sure there are too many. What I learned through this experience, is that, just as scripture says, nothing can separate us from His love. After my healing, I learned to be more free in my faith, and I was released from feeling like I always needed to make the right choice.
Mental Health: Let’s Talk About It (Series, Part 3)
How many are walking around today who look perfectly normal? How many appear to have it all together when their internal world is falling apart? You would be surprised. Many are probably surprised at this post. I have shared in parts about my struggle with mental health issues before, but never to this degree. I hope that someone is encouraged that even though it can take a while, the pain does end.