This week I had the amazing opportunity to have my first TV interview. WOW. I am still in awe! The way that everything came about was so divine, that only Elohim could have orchestrated it that perfect. It really goes all the way back to last year when I joined a class on forgiveness. I… Continue reading Always Stay Ready
Early on in my faith, I fell in love with a book titled “Redeeming Love”. Ever heard of it? I must have read that book at least three times and apparently I was so in love with it that I bought a copy for one of my besties. She reminded me of this fact when… Continue reading Love Redeemed
This week I had the blessing of spending Christmas with my loved ones, which consisted of two of my sisters, one lovable dog, one cute cat, in one tiny house. Now, for some reason, your girl did not think that one through when she booked the Airbnb nearly six months ago. Why is it that… Continue reading A Tiny Christmas
This weekend I had the pleasure of being interviewed by a woman who I recently connected with (shout out to Sage Da Coach from Outside the Box!). She asked me what I had learned this year from God. I instantly knew, I learned that I need others. I have been so wired to be self-reliant and independent, and a lot of times I need to be, but I am learning that I don’t need to be all the time. There are times I simply will not be able to do things all on my own, and I will need help.
I finally realized one day that the question I kept asking, “What is my purpose?” was already answered. This happened when I found myself engaging within a community of people who were on a similar mission. Like minded, driven, young, passionate people, pursuing small business. Pursuing purpose. They were building something, creating something out of nothing, and transforming their communities in the process.
What are some things in your life that you have overlooked being thankful for? In what way can you say there is a specific kind of grace being distributed to you that has always been distributed to you, and probably always will be?
During the celebration of love last week, as you can guess, my own love life became a topic of conversation more times than I cared to discuss. I understood this was going to be a given, and something I would just need to “bear through”, so I navigated the questions as best I could. “Are you dating? What are you looking for? You’re so attractive, why aren’t you seeing anyone?”, etc…etc… Even when the question wasn’t asked out loud, it loomed in their eyes as they pondered my single status in confusion.
Have you been there? Have you had an issue that you have been dealing with, but have not gone to God about it? Have you felt like, He has more major things to worry about in the world like this world wide pandemic, or other world affairs? The thing is, in my journey, I have numerous testimonies of God showing up for me, even in the smallest things. My friends do too! He has shown us time and time again that He is, “Intimately acquainted with all our ways” (Psalm 139:3) and that, “He cares for us” (1 Peter 5:7).
In all of the stories I’ve heard concerning domestic violence, the theme in them is that, even with all the craziness and chaos and danger, it’s still hard to leave that person. I can resonate with that. I know that we logically may not understand desiring someone who is harming us, but the heart is complex. When we give our emotions and being to someone else, it can be hard to just walk away.
These are just a few instances that have occurred over the years in regards to my complexion. When I shared them with a guy I had dated more recently in my adulthood, (before making him sit through the hour-long documentary “Dark Girls”), his response was to brush off my concerns as being immature nonsense that happens while growing up. “Then why are there rarely strong, beautiful, darker skin women portrayed in our media? Why is the typical light skin woman the one on the videos or in the BET (Black Entertainment Television) rom com?” To that, he had no response. Because he knew. Our people are still ashamed.