In my early 30s, a sudden shift happened in the dry season that had lasted over 10 years of my nonexistent dating life. My heart cried out to God and He heard me. I asked God to move and He did. The floodgates opened, and y’all, it was literally raining men 😂🌧💃🏾. This new experience of hearing God say “yes” (with boundaries) is so opposite of hearing Him say “no” for so long that the sudden onslaught of attention and interest still has not been the easiest to navigate. In fact, I’ve had plenty of pitfalls, tear-stained nights and burdensome conversations. That being said, I also have had SO MUCH FUN.
Once upon a time I believed I could not and would not date. If dating was the antonym of courtship, then I chose courtship. I even share this in my first book. But then things changed. I changed. The years rolled on and I found myself walking out what my friends and I call, “extended… Continue reading Dating Has Purpose
Hello! Check out my guest post A New View on Dating! I have received so much from Candra’s blog “Abundantly You” and it’s always a blessing to be featured on her site! She is truly a woman that has lived a life of surrender, waited on God’s best and received His promise. Enjoy! SHALOM
For the longest time I’ve known that the man I would marry would pursue wholeheartedly. There would be no holding back as he would realize my value and jump through hoops to capture his prize. And for the longest time that did not happen. Even in past relationships, I did not experience what the depths of my heart was… Continue reading When A Godly Man Pursues
I sat across from my friend of 7+ years on her comfortable, homey sofa and tried to ignore the figure sprawled out on the floor at our feet. Her boyfriend, who was intently watching some sort of cartoon (Batman maybe?) on what I assumed to be her laptop, was not even worth conversing with in my opinion.… Continue reading Musings on Settling…
Last night, as the wine flowed, ice-cream digested and sleepiness kicked in, my friends and I engaged in a fairly humorous discussion…what makes one an introvert? My friend who is the epitome of the-life-of-the-party, social butterfly, stereotypical extrovert is now dating a reclusive, home-body, super introvert. And she credits ME for helping her to relate… Continue reading The Introverted Extrovert
So I did it. I joined millions of Americans and signed up on an online dating site. Now this is not my first time…actually it’s my 3rd in all honesty. But this is the first time I didn’t feel like I was stepping out of God’s will. The other 2 times I knew that is… Continue reading Online Dating: The Verdict is Still Out