Category: Friendships, Relationships & Everything In Between

When Your Best Friend Gets Married

My best friend got engaged.  We knew it was coming but then again we didn’t.  We talked about the possibilities and played out the scenarios but nothing makes it real until it really happens.  Well it really happened. And all of a sudden, memories of our shared singlehood flash across my minds’ eye. Like that… Continue reading When Your Best Friend Gets Married

Processing Singleness

Hello there!  I am so excited to share a piece I wrote this summer that has been featured on Permission To Write’s online journal!: I walk in from the rain and glance inside the trendy restaurant to the table by the window.  It’s surprisingly busy for a weekday.  I’m playing hookie from work and I… Continue reading Processing Singleness

Building Slowly

I admit I can be an impatient person.  Even after all these years and all the tests God has used to develop patience w/in me, it is not my preference to wait.  But in the world of getting to know new people and developing relationships, I have come to value a person that takes their… Continue reading Building Slowly

Adjusting Expectations 

Women laughing together on urban rooftop

I’m in the midst of visiting longtime friends in a city I’ve been to so many times over the years, but it’s never really stood out to me in and of itself. Instead it’s been the people here–the women here– who have touched my soul in such a way that when I visit, they are… Continue reading Adjusting Expectations 

The Trade (Poem)

Can I trust you with my mess? The bruised brokenness of smelly sweat? The scarred woundedness that oozes green gross disgusting stuff? The pores on my skin open with it and no matter how many bandages I try to cover them with, there just never seem to be enough Enough I’ve had–enough I’ve come–to the… Continue reading The Trade (Poem)

I Never Wanted to Date

So now I’m more open. I’m receiving phone numbers, I’m going out, I’m letting the universe (and Jesus, of course) know that, “I’m accepting applicants from quality candidates at this time. Dating wasn’t my first choice. It wasn’t what I thought my romantic life would look like 10—ok, ok, 15 years ago. But there is… Continue reading I Never Wanted to Date

An Open Letter To My Roommate

Tonight will be the last night we sleep under the same roof together. Ever. (Insert sad face.) I remember our first meeting and how I knew God wanted me to connect with you.  I had no idea back then that you would be in my inner circle.  That for nearly a year you would be… Continue reading An Open Letter To My Roommate

The Gift

It’s been a month since we started hanging. I knew I was attracted but had no idea God could use that attraction. I had no idea you would be a safe haven. A place of restoration. There are so many things I marvel at: the treatment of respect, the understanding of my value, the seeing… Continue reading The Gift

Blind Spots

Connected car technology could warn drivers when vehicles ahead of them suddenly brake.

It’s amazing one can be intelligent, driven, successful, beautiful and godly.  One can be all those adjectives yet still be susceptible to Foolery.  Manipulation.  Falsehood. And Deception. One of my spiritual gifts is discernment.  Demons and spiritual entities of darkness approached me early on in my spiritual journey and I was hardly afraid. I could… Continue reading Blind Spots

Getting Older

  People have been asking me what I’m planning for the big 3-4.  I honestly have no plans.  My emotions have been up and down (ok, mostly down) about the upcoming event and I don’t know how I will feel when it gets here.  Will I have a series of bursts of energy and strength… Continue reading Getting Older