Hi guys! The following interview is our final interview for this blog series “Encouragement From Marrieds to Singles”. Enjoy!!!
Me: How long were you single?
Kandis: I was single for about a year before I met my husband. We met when I was 25 years old and he was 27. We married 4 years later.
Me: When you think back on your time of singleness what is one word you would use to describe that time and why?
Kandis: During my singleness I wasn’t exactly looking for “the one”. I had two serious relationships prior to meeting my husband and some “flings” in between to fill the void. So I guess my my one word would be “restored“. I wanted to have a feeling of peace and love that I knew I wasn’t receiving with my past relationships.
Me: What were some of the hard times of your singleness? What were some of the great times?
Kandis: The hard times were sometimes feeling like I should settle and just go back to my ex. But I knew deep in my heart that God had different plans. I felt alone at times but again I knew that I wanted restoration and peace and I wanted real love. The great times would have to be the process of moving on and not having any regrets and just enjoying life without the need to be in a relationship with someone.
Me: What is one important lesson you learned in singleness? In marriage?
Kandis: Getting to know yourself during singleness can be tough but at the same time fulfilling, having that time alone allowed me to discover myself. I discovered that I wasn’t adjusting my personality to suit the person I was with at the time. I discovered that God had a plan and purpose for me and in marriage it’s such a wonderful feeling to be with someone who helps you to grow spiritually and stands beside you while you’re fulfilling God’s purpose.
Me: What advice would you give to those who are waiting on God’s best and desire not to settle in their relationship choice?
Kandis: My advice would be to enjoy life, travel, serve others, listen, learn something new, find you, remember God has a plan for your life! Listen for HIS voice. Don’t settle, God is preparing HIS best for you!
