Blog Series: Encouragement from Marrieds to Singles (Tierra Moore)

Me: How long were you single?

Tierra: 6 years (from my last serious relationship to the time I married).

Me: When you think back on your time of singleness what is one word you would use to describe that time and why?

Tierra: Radical!  Because my encounters with God were so extraordinary, I was wrapped up in Him!  I was very content because of my hunger and appetite to serve Him and those who were lost and broken. I was enthralled by the prophetic ministry I was apart of. I was living rapidly for Him. I wanted to see growth in others and I was unashamed to minister. I had a zeal for God that was so fulfilling!

Me: What were some of the hard times of your singleness?  What were some of the great times?

Tierra: The hard times were not getting male attention. I also dealt with insecurities and struggles with my weight. There was temptation to go back to false comforts such as pornography, trying to find ways to get male attention, and using dating sites (when I didn’t feel the Lord wanted me to).  Dating was not the season I was supposed to be in but I was thirsty. The great times were having freedom to be with friends at all hours of the night and talk about dreams and aspirations. I loved to spontaneously go to places just because and to travel! I even once ran a triathlon! There was always something to do while being single; it was never boring for me. There was always an open door policy somewhere.

Me: Why do you think God incorporated a longer season of singleness in your story than some of your peers?

Tierra: I really believe it was because of the “Nazerite calling” on my life that I didn’t understand until the later portion of my singleness. The Nazerites were separated on purpose for God and they couldn’t do what everybody else could because God had a specific mission for them. I needed that season to know who I am and to be sensitive to the Holy Spirit. I wouldn’t go to concerts or listen to certain music during that season. I once even fasted for a year from secular music! I had different idols in my heart that were hidden and God was breaking things off of me. He wanted to help me see that I am a daughter and that there was a specific call on my life. I knew that because of my calling my path would always look different from everyone else’s.  Even when I was a child, I didn’t understand why I didn’t feel like I fit in. Often friends were seasonal because of this call.

Me: What advice would you give to those who are waiting on God’s best and desire not to settle in their relationship choice?

Tierra: Discover a relationship with Christ and His intimacy. Create a devotion to Him. Get to know Him; that was the only way I did not settle. If I settled I would have ended up with someone who I couldn’t share my passion or spiritual concerns with; we couldn’t worship together and pray together. Now I can come home and talk to someone who understands my burdens and knows how to affirm me with God’s Word and give me hope in Christ. My husband will encourage me even when I don’t want to hear it. I grew up in a household seeing marriage as being unequally yoked and I knew I didn’t want to go through that fight; it wouldn’t be worth it. When you discover who you are you will want to share your encounters, but if you come home to someone who can’t get it, it’s disheartening because they don’t. You are changing and evolving and they can’t relate. You can influence them but who knows when that change will come.


Tierra Moore is a wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, business woman, fashion coordinator, writer and lover of Jesus. Her tender heart exudes His love and demonstrates His affection for His bride. She faithfully serves her family and still makes time for travel and loved ones.

By Nicole D. Miller

Nicole D. Miller is an author and heartfelt writer, as expressed on her blog Better Than Wine. Her books are published at and on Amazon. She loves all things “old school” hip-hop and R&B, along with any outfit that involves cute boots and thick scarves. She even manages to run her own bookkeeping business ( when she’s not cuddling her cute cat she fondly calls, “Squeaks”.

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