The Error in Comparing Lives

Lately I’ve been stalking a certain blog. In the past I’ve read the author’s writings off and on but lately I’m pretty sure it’s safe to say I’m stalking :-). I just love her story so much! We have similar journeys and we function spiritually in the same way. But reading her story just seems so much more spectacular. And walking out my own just seems so….HARD. Even though she shares her pain and struggle, because I have seen some of the outcome via FB and blog posts, it just looks BEAUTIFUL. Every time I read a post I always think “Wow, she’s so prophetic” or “Wow, she’s so intimate with God” or “Wow she’s so spiritual”. But then I keep hearing Holy Spirit agree and say “Yea, but what about you?” “What about your story Nicole?” “But God I’m not as prophetic like she is.” So Holy Spirit led me to read some old journal entries last night and I was amazed at how God was moving prophetically through me in that season. It was truly a season of dreams and prophetic insight almost on a daily basis. I have changed so much since those early years. Even when reading the encounters I was having it felt like I was reading someone else’s experiences. There was a shift in my walk with God and it was much needed. He needed to prune my character so that it would match the gifts He had given me.

Maybe I’m not the only one who has compared themselves with others and thought, “Man, I wish I was on their level! I wish I was that strong spiritually or that intelligent or that stellar!” Well, God’s response to you is, “Oh but you are!”

He wants us to see ourselves the way He sees us.

Reading someone’s blog, or Facebook or Twitter feed will show you the highlights, or whatever the author feels willing to share. So your view will always be skewed and that person will never be seen in their entirety. But Christ sees us in our entirety. He does not see just one chapter of our lives but the whole book that He has written. So don’t judge yourself by how much you have walked out thus far. Instead, judge yourself by His word:

You are fearfully and wonderfully made.

You are made in His image.

You are loved, accepted and amazing.

No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and He will bring every good thing He has for you to pass in your life.

He will complete that which He started in you!

It’s funny how we can have qualities and gifts and be so oblivious about it. We look at others and desire what they have and they are probably doing the same with us. We were all made to reflect the different aspects of our Creator and we each hold a piece of His greatness. It is up to each of us to put on display the vastness of His glory that He has hidden deep within our souls. His fullness will be displayed when each part of His body shines forth their respective identities.


By Nicole D. Miller

Nicole D. Miller is an author and heartfelt writer, as expressed on her blog Better Than Wine. Her books are published at and on Amazon. She loves all things “old school” hip-hop and R&B, along with any outfit that involves cute boots and thick scarves. She even manages to run her own bookkeeping business ( when she’s not cuddling her cute cat she fondly calls, “Squeaks”.

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