Encouragement to My Single Sisters on V-Day

This morning I lay in my bed praying that God would lead my emotions.  As a woman it is so easy to be emotionally led.  I understand that not ALL women tend to lean on the more emotional, irrational, or even neurotic side of things, but overall, we, as a gender demonstrate these character traits more than our male counterparts.  And so, I not only felt led to pray for myself, but I pray for all of my single sisters today.

On Valentine’s Day.

I pray that your emotions are submitted to Christ.  That they are lifted up to the Most High, as a sweet offering to His nostrils and that in return you receive the peace of God that surpasses all understanding.  In return you receive a comfort unlike any that you’ve ever experienced before from a Daddy who loves you insanely.

I mean, isn’t it insane to be the Creator of all, leave the comfort of a heavenly home, become wrapped in temporary, lowly flesh, only to experience a tremendously grueling death, for a people who reject you and try to end your existence?

Yea, sounds pretty insane to me.

I understand the desire to give in to them; those emotions that is.  They are triggered and awakened with every commercial about candy, and stuffed bears for that special woman in that special man’s life.  The Jewelry companies have been going ham, trying to appeal to our natural desires to accumulate more and more STUFF, to validate our own self worth.  Clearly their advertisement efforts have proven profitable every year as consumers run around from one store to the next frantically making purchases for their sweetheart to take pictures of, and post on social media.

Now, there is definitely nothing WRONG with buying your sweetheart gifts.  Heck, I will take a gift from a sweetheart any day!  But know this, what is wrong is the deceiving  message that our culture sends over and over again that “you are not someone unless you have someone”.  And V-Day is just one of those opportunities for this false message to continue being hammered into the hearts of us Americans.

So, let us awaken to the deception.  Let us awaken to the lie, that we are not worthy of love unless someone earthly loves us.  Let us awaken to the fact that our worth is based solely on the fact that someone much greater than us, loves us.  I think receiving that truth will make it a little more bearable to face the upcoming day filled with a focus on a gift we were not given.  A gift that is seasonal and temporary and even still, precious.

Let’s face it ladies (and men), we are going against the culture.  We are choosing a different way than we were told was “normal”.  If it means being a virgin past 30, refraining from sexual activity, or even kissing during courtship, than it is not the “norm”.  And being abnormal is never easy.  There will always be adversity when walking the path of Christ.

Single or married, young or old, the call will always be challenged.

May Christ lead us in His ways, instead of our emotions.

And May He get all the glory from this leading (2 Corinthians 10:17).


By Nicole D. Miller

Nicole D. Miller is an author and heartfelt writer, as expressed on her blog Better Than Wine. Her books are published at nicoledmiller.com and on Amazon. She loves all things “old school” hip-hop and R&B, along with any outfit that involves cute boots and thick scarves. She even manages to run her own bookkeeping business (www.abnbookkeepingllc.com) when she’s not cuddling her cute cat she fondly calls, “Squeaks”.


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