The Gift of Time

This weekend I had the pleasure of spending 48 hours with my goddaughter. Man that was a serious wake up call! I just want to say up front that I am HARDLY around children AND I’m an only child. You can imagine how unprepared I was to go from single with no children to being a full time mom! Sure I have had her and her siblings from time to time. I have taken them on outings and just took them tobagging last week but this little visit was something I had never before experienced. The following are a few insights I gained these last 48 hours:

1. You rarely have alone time. Everytime I was coming out of the restroom she was there.

2. Children are NEEDY. Every few minutes she needed something from me. She was simply not independent. Even if she wasn’t physically needy she was emotionally needy.

3. Sleep is a luxery. I was woken up this morning out of my sleep because she needed me.

4. Nothing goes by plan with kids. From the breakfast I slaved over to the bath she took, nothing went by plan.

My life is full of downtime and naps and rest. It is all about me. I dont have to wait for anyone or consider anyone but with a child that is all I was thinking about. I was always thinking about making sure she was ok. Making sure she was fed, bathed, entertained. And I even got a break when her dad came to pick her up yesterday! But still, I was tired. And that was just one child who is out of diapers! God’s grace and strength to all parents out there, ESPECIALLY to the single parents!

The one thing that stood out to me is the Father’s care for us. All the while I was caring for my goddaughter I kept being reminded that this is how the Lord is with us. I was convinced that all parents should never doubt the Lord’s provision and love. Just as they are so concerned to take care of their child they can rest assured the Father is the same way!

There were of course some rewarding moments and I love this little girl like my own. I pray for her and encourge her. I want her to know I am cheering her on every step of the way! Still I did not miss the message of this weekend and that is when you are single you have more time to focus on the Lord:  So I am going to bide my time in this season, continue enjoying my naps and rest and me time. Until God says otherwise I’ll enjoy the gift of time!  


By Nicole D. Miller

Nicole D. Miller is an author and heartfelt writer, as expressed on her blog Better Than Wine. Her books are published at and on Amazon. She loves all things “old school” hip-hop and R&B, along with any outfit that involves cute boots and thick scarves. She even manages to run her own bookkeeping business ( when she’s not cuddling her cute cat she fondly calls, “Squeaks”.